ADDers Rarely say "I'm Finished!"


Do you have trouble finishing projects? 

 We have been chatting about ADD, Attention Deficit Disorder. Last time I mentioned the challenge that exists for a person who has trouble concentrating and that was finishing projects. We can all struggle with that sometimes.

 Due to the tendency towards distraction, it is likely that most people with ADD will start a lot of different projects! This is not only frustrating for them but also for those who live with them.

Here is what I have learned living with my ADD husband:

 They don't need judgment,
they need prayer.
They don't need nagging,
they need help.
They don't need accusations,

they need forgiveness.

 We all, not just those with ADD, exhibit behaviors that are annoying for others. The ADDer is not unique that way. However, with some understanding of the nature of ADD, you can work with it instead of against it. You can get the best out of it instead of feeling like a victim. The ADD could feel like a victim, the family of the ADD person could feel like a victim, and the teacher of an ADD child could feel that way too.

 BUT, think of it from the ADDer's point of view. They have great ideas. They know they are as smart if not smarter than most people. But since they have such a hard time finishing anything they often have little to show for their efforts...lots of beginnings and no endings. 

 They feel like failures a lot of the time. That can lead to depression.

 A person who already feels like a failure does not need further judgement dumped on them. They do enough judging of themselves!

 So, if you live with an ADD person, what can you do to help them instead of hinder them?

 I have a few ideas I will share with you next time.

 This is going to be the best part of this series about ADD so don't miss it!

 WHAT ABOUT YOU? What kind of day are you having? Does someone come to mind as you read all about ADD?

Don't give up! There is hope for depression.

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