Wendy Love says "Goodbye" to Depression Getaway

 Dear Friends,

It is a beautiful day on my deck at our lakefront trailer in Ontario. This is a special place for me where I can rest, relax, refresh, renew and recover from life and all it throws at us.

March 2019 was my last post, five months ago. At that time I was experiencing such severe headaches resulting from computer eyestrain that I had to take a break. Since I am still having eyestrain whenever I use the computer I have concluded that my season of blogging has come to an end after 11 years.

I am not sad about this. There is a time for everything and I think the time to say goodbye is now. Blogging has been a satisfying and fulfilling experience for me and apparently I have even helped a few people!

If this is your first time visiting 'Depression Getaway with Wendy Love' don't go away just because I am not blogging anymore! There is a lot of good stuff in here, all designed to inform you and encourage you. The blog will stay intact even though I will not be adding to it. This blog can be a great resource for you, and let's face it, we need all the help we can get.

Depression, no matter what form you experience, can be an insidious and relentless illness. Finding treatments that work can be as frustrating as walking through a maze. Doing that alone is impossible. Reading this blog will make you feel less alone.

Encouraging others battling mental illness has been one of my life's missions.

The other day as Casey (my little Yorkie) and I were leaving church (yes he goes to church with me) a new family wanted to greet him. One of the children asked my why I had a dog in church and I said "because I have a mental illness called bipolar disorder and he makes me feel better."I try to address mental illness as openly as if I was talking about the weather. I am as open as I can possibly be and that opens doors to talk to others who are suffering.

There is no comfort that compares to talking to someone who has experienced the same kind of challenge as you have. If I am not open about it I don't get those opportunities to listen and encourage and make someone feel less alone.

But I have some good news to report!  I have been feeling well for four months now! I have not felt that well for that long in over twenty years! You are probably wondering if there is any reason for this? I am not sure but I think it is my little dog I got about a year ago.

The comfort and companionship are just like anyone with a dog has experienced. But the real bonus with my dog is how calming he is for me. Just petting him makes me feel better. And he seems to know that his job is taking care of me. He spends a lot of time on my lap but even more time when I am a little low like he knows I need to rest and he is going to sit on me to make sure I do!

It is wonderful to end my blogging days on a high note!

Now the dog is the last thing I have added onto my long list of things I do to help me live well despite bipolar disorder. I have a psychiatrist who I see four times a year. I take my medication faithfully. I take something to help me sleep. I eat well (about 75% of the time), I walk every day, I make sure I get plently of quiet time expecially after I have been busy. I try to make time to do the things that I love such as sewing, painting and writing. I try to avoid activities and people I don't enjoy.

I can never to forget that taking care of bipolar is a full-time job. If I don't do my job well I will get sick.

WHAT ABOUT YOU? How are you feeling today? Are you taking good care of yourself? Do you have a treatment plan in place?

Don't give up! There is hope for depression.

So long for now!

Computer Eye Strain - Break Needed

Hello friends! I have to take a little break. I have computer eye strain big time. I have had it before and a long break from the computer helped a lot, plus computer glasses (might need a new pair).

So I won't be posting for a few weeks.

There is hope for depression (and computer eye strain!) so don't give up!

Password Makeover

Choosing a new password can be challenging. We are warned frequently that it is important to change passwords now and then.

I watch a lot of detective shows and when they are trying to hack into someone's computer they always manage to guess the password using the usual: birthdates, pet's name, address, etc.

I've got a new suggestion for a password change that may also help with depression. Are you ready?

I Have to Walk the Dog - So What's Your Excuse?

If you are an introvert like me you will look for any excuse to take a break from people when you are at a party or in a crowd.

Casey has become my new excuse. "I better walk the dog!"

"No Offence But..." favourt

"No offence but...." 

My stepdaughter used to use this phrase a lot when she was in her teens. It was a preface for something honest that she wanted to share that she knew wouldn't be popular. She is a gentle sweet soul and wouldn't hurt anyone on purpose, and so I guess she thought if she said 'no offense but' before she brought up the unpopular thought, it would make everything okay?

Frankly I don't even remember being offended so I guess it wasn't as dramatic is she might have thought at the time. Bless her for trying to avoid hurting others.

However, there are times that people will says things, that do hurt and that we can't forget.

And if you have any kind of mental illness you will find it hard NOT to relive those harsh words, over and over and over. That's called 'ruminating' and usually goes hand in hand with depression.

How Do I Love Thee? Let Me Count the Ways - 18!

“A dog has no use for fancy cars, big homes, or designer clothes. A water logged stick will do just fine. A dog doesn't care if you're rich or poor, clever or dull, smart or dumb. Give him your heart and he'll give you his. How many people can you say that about? How many people can make you feel rare and pure and special? How many people can make you feel extraordinary?”  (That quote is from the book/movie 'Marley and Me'.)

Oh, and by the way, the above picture is not of my Casey even though he looks like that. Just couldn't resist posting this one.

Your Perfect Retreat!

 Last time we talked about retreating to prepare for advancing.

This would be a retreat of rest and relaxation and strengthening for the road ahead.

Which one of these pictures looks like an ideal retreat for you?

Retreat to Advance? Really?

Do you believe that in order to advance you must first retreat?

We who live with mental illness know all about retreating. That is what we do, at least what I do, when I am at my worst. I retreat.

And when I do retreat, my hope is that the enforced rest will fortify me to advance once again, when I am ready.

Depression is NOT a Character Flaw!

Depression is not a character flaw! Do you believe that? Do you know that?

Would someone with cancer ever beat themselves up mentally by saying "I am such a loser, I have cancer" or "why can't I just make this cancer go away?"

Would someone with diabetes decide to quit taking insulin because taking medication makes you weak?

Of course not.

'Tidying Up' is a 'NEAT' Depression Getaway

This is a great new series on Netflix. It is called 'Tidying Up with Marie Kondo'.

I read her book awhile ago "The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up". It's a lovely read.

Now I must first confess my bias before we go any further. Organizing and sorting is a passion of mine. I love it. 

'Still Standing' my new Favourite TV Show, Survival - the Great Depression Getaway

In a society that celebrates improvement, excellence, appearance, success, well, mere survival doesn't seem to be something to celebrate does it?

However, one of my new favourite TV shows, 'Still Standing' is just about that - SURVIVAL.

Here are the introductory remarks to this show given by it's host, a popular Canadian comedian Jonny Harris:

"The Sounds of Silence" - Silence as a Depression Getaway

As I wrote this, before leaving for the south, it was a beautiful winter morning in the small town in Ontario where I live. We have had a fresh snow fall and it is still snowing lightly. It is clean, magical and begged me to take one of my longer walks. 

If you have walked in the snow you know it is not a quiet experience. Your feet make a crunching sound each time they hit the ground, and as your arms swing across your winter attire there is usually a swishing sound as well.

Since I love the rhythm of my walking, and enjoy the way my mind works while I walk, I sometimes forget to stop occasionally and look around at the beautiful scenery.